Allana Pratt, author of How To Be And Stay Sexy, columnist for eHarmony and Sexy Mom Expert on CBS, TLC & FOX, is a booked solid Relationship Coach who is Redefining Sexuality. She's a #1 rated radio host and guest on Christian Carter's Catch Him and Keep Him and David DeAngelo's Double Your Dating.
People Magazine reported Allana was the first person Leeza Gibbons called for coaching when she signed on with Dancing with the Stars. Permanently switch from "overwhelmed, crunchy and lacking" to "luscious, confident and abundant" with Allana's RedefiningSexuality.com membership for women.
Fill up your tanks ladies and live from the overflow because when mama's happy... everybody's happy! Visit Allana's professional website at: Allana Pratt.
Question: I’m afraid if I finally forgive, will I be vulnerable to be hurt again?
Answer: Yes, I totally get it. I used to think the same thing. If I close my heart then no one can ever hurt me… right? Well when we close our heart, we chop off our connection to our intuition, to our instinct, our gut reactions, our capacity to see red flags. We become robots over analyzing everything in our minds, overthinking, second guessing, dissolving our confidence, doubting our capacity to trust ourselves, increasing our search for evidence to blame others and situations…
Yes, it’s a sucky life to live that way, one of fear, terror and panic if we were willing to slow down and really feel what happens when we let go.
There is a powerful Guided Mediation I created in both my men’s and women’s memberships… Letting Go… www.gethertosayyes.com/sayyes for men… and www.redefiningsexuality.com for women… it’s based on a mediation given to me from Ruby Bedi where she asked me to let go of all these horses. Just last night a private client from Alabama told me he thought this was foo foo when I taught it to him on a Full Day Intensive, but now having returned to his home town, he uses it daily and it’s his connection to peace and power.
So basically imagine you have all these reigns to horses of all the people you haven’t forgiven. And all these great relationships and experiences are passing you by… you can’t receive them because you’re holding onto the horses… and so in the guided mediation I ask you to let them go. This is super intense. When I did it, I mean REALLY did it, I cried and freaked out… I really thought I would die, get ‘hurt again’ as you said.
Yet what I noticed is that instead after the panic subsided, I felt whole, knowing, perceiving, intuitive, clear, calmly powerful. Safe. At peace.
From that space of finally letting go you also have access to the lessons of that experience… I can help you to claim and implement these lessons into your very being, your very life should you join the Live calls every other week in the Membership… and once we integrate the lessons into your essence… you may be hurt again, for people are human, not robots… but YOU will never suffer again, and each time bounce back stronger, wiser and more amazing than the time before.
Know you are loved,
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4 Secrets to Being a Confident, Peaceful & Sexy Mom!
By Allana Pratt, Sexy Mom Expert
1. Feeling vs. Reacting: As Moms we really are so busy, we very rarely take time to listen deeply to how we are truly feeling. Instead we use unrelated disappointments here and there to really unload our grievances. My advice would be to have a bath once a week and check in- do you need to really cry? Do you want to journal if you’re confused? Do you want to write some creative thoughts down? Do you want to stop thinking and simply BE? We all have the same 24 hours a day, if you don’t schedule YOU time, it doesn’t happen and that inner voice can’t guide and encourage you. You’re worth it!
AND read There’s Nothing Wrong with You, by Cheri Huber
2. Tantrums: To be a sensual woman in the face of chaos… it takes a lot… and yet see if you can open your heart no matter what’s happening. Let’s say your child is having a tantrum at the store and you’re embarrassed and worried about what people think of you. In that moment instead of judging, resisting and reacting to outside judgments, open, breathe and affirm that you can handle it. Breathe and know that inside is your intuition, and you can’t go wrong from a place of love.
AND read Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson
3. Wandering Eyes: Let’s say you are in a restaurant with your man. A beautiful woman walks by and you watch his eyes stray. You happen to still feel overweight since the baby, you haven’t slept well, you haven’t had time for you in forever and inside you are either boiling or hopeless. In that moment, open. Say thank you. She is your mirror. You are a radiant woman, too. Let her remind you to take even better care of yourself. See if you can forgive him, forgive her and simply love yourself. If we shut down and get snippy, we know how the evening will go. Instead, open, shine and watch how your husband responds to you the rest of the evening. I bet he’ll be mesmerized.
AND read Dear Lover, by David Deida
4. Silly is Sexy: I want to raise a well mannered boy and yet in the midst of all my rules, there needs to be some silliness for my son to go wild and for me to let go! We like to dance on our coffee table to Reggae. We have dinner in the playhouse or under the table in a fort and eat mac and cheese with our fingers. One time we had a shaving cream fight in the back yard and washed off in the kiddy pool. Apparently when my boyfriend found us he found me very sexy… you see Sexy is being free in your body… loving your Self and the Moment exactly as it is… loosen up and have some fun!
AND read Fabulous Friendship Festival, Loving Wildly, Learning Deeply, Living Fully with Our Friends by my inspirational friend SARK
Allana Pratt, a Relationship coach for the past 15 yrs. and a Sexy Mom Expert, knows it’s time for women to get over the guilt, fill up their tanks first, give themselves permission for pleasure because when mama’s happy, everybody’s happy! For the secrets to attracting all the love, attention and success you deserve, go to www.AllanaPratt.com!
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by Allana Pratt
We swirl our fingers through luscious shaving cream on the bright red picnic table. This lasts barely a minute before my soapy toddler and I are in full fledged foam fight. We artfully compare our sudsy Mohawks, rinse off and retire for a restorative nap. His trumpeting voice alerts me that he’s ready to race into the afternoon, so crouching down on all fours, I enter the room clucking like a chicken. He laughs hysterically as I beam.
Maybe it was giving birth, spreading my legs for all to see, that dismantled my preoccupation with what people thought of me. Until the birth of my son, I was wired to seek approval for my every decision. Disapproval felt like finger nails down a chalk board. I remember the shame of being turned away by my former husband, too preoccupied with work to enjoy my surprise lunchtime strip tease. I remember women’s glances of pity as I, the poor girl who hadn’t the pedigree to know any better, chatted and tore open my power bar for a homeless fingerless man.
I valued other’s approval more than my own eroticism or generosity. The insecure lens through which I saw the world opened- literally- during birth. My thoughts and behaviors were now molding an innocent human being. I had been waiting for permission to stop flat lining through life. Motherhood became my portal to freedom.
My own mom once told me, “You wouldn’t care so much about what people think of you if you knew how little they did.” At the local diner her wisdom comforts me as my son smashes eggs and hash browns into his hair then plops into the public fountain. I’m reminded that he’s washable. Dryable. I encourage myself to savor these tender moments.
From my new vantage point, it turns out dirt is decadent, mess is marvelous and hugging trees is grand. My creativity abounds as we picnic in the back yard tree house, read under forts of blankets, nap in tents in his room. My brain says I don’t have the time or energy for this silliness! But my heart whispers, “nourish and liberate your soul to the brim with sticky hands and make-believe.”
This latitude has spilled over into juicy girlfriend time. Instead of victim sessions over the phone, we have fun painting each other’s toes in the driveway at sunset and dining by candle light on the shag rug around the coffee table. Conversations are magical, laughter intoxicating and insights divinely inspired. I’m still pissy on my period, beside myself when my kid clobbers another kid, and mad when drivers cut me off, yet these moods pass quickly because I now see joy is my choice, my responsibility, my gift to myself.
Being able to lovingly laugh at myself through the process sustains that joy. Bless motherhood for pouring forth my wellspring of happiness. Let’s just hope my son forgets that I clucked like a chicken. Actually, let’s hope not.Keywords: advice for mom, Allana Pratt, How mama got her groove back, Sexy Mom, Soulful Mom